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She also has other relationships, including a serious boyfriend who lives in the United States, and both her live-in partner and life partner have other relationships as well."Monogamy has never made sense to me, at least as a relationship structure (although I know it works well for other people).Emotionally, it makes no sense to me to think that my love for one person diminishes my ability to love others.I also hate the idea that while I might be emotionally close to a range of people, the fact that I only have sex with one person would be the defining feature of my relationship."Before I heard about poly, I remember reading about women like Simone de Beauvoir and Frida Kahlo and knowing that brilliant women, at least, could have relationships that worked differently.And, I remember vaguely thinking that maybe if I could manage to be brilliant I would be 'allowed' to do what made sense for me.For a long time I tried to be in monogamous relationships, especially after early attempts to negotiate open relationships failed, because they felt like the only option available to me. When I learned that 'poly' was a thing and that I wasn't alone — and didn't have to be some kind of bohemian genius to make things work — it was a tremendous relief."Poly feels like it's really central to who I am, and it's tightly interwoven with other aspects of my identity.Poly for me is strongly tied to the importance I place on individual autonomy in the context of healthy communities. But, it's also unavoidable."There are a heap of benefits.
And, when poly relationships crash and burn, it's exponentially more ugly because of the blurred lines and emotions involved.In that theoretical sense, I would be more likely to engage in polyamory.But, I don't know."There are still a lot of misconceptions about the idea, and I'm sure I still have a lot myself, but it's something that I would be willing to try — with the right person, at the right time, in the right situation.My ex-husband's girlfriend stared at us in bafflement. "That sounds like a made-up word for slutty.""Polyamorous" is a made-up word (it was first used in the early '90s), but it's not a made-up concept.
She was from Nebraska, and had never heard of such a thing. People across cultures have been loving more than one person at a time, engaging in multiple-partner relationships, and having open and varied sexual play for thousands of years.
I thought it was a great way to remain committed to someone while not feeling restricted sexually to one single person.