How to tell someone you are not interested in dating
I texted an explanation and apology beforehand, along with the request to grab food before pouring back more drinks.I’ll give my date credit where credit’s due: He was understanding and relaxed with my embarrassing buzz."If you’re not into me," he wrote, "why waste time?" But then again, he’s never told someone when he wasn’t into them, because he didn’t want to be mean." It felt like an interview rather than a conversation. "Well," he mused, "she wasn’t really an ex." His overeagerness to share was abrasive.Toward the end of the evening, as he walked me toward my train, I made a joke about the benches in the middle of the road. I didn’t want to know the intricacies of how he defined relationships with other people. Tell me your favorite color and how good it felt to vote for your favorite candidate. Tell me about the scar on your left shin and what shenanigan it’s from. After the Thanksgiving holiday, I decided to text him how I felt: Hey!"Who sits and talks in the median, with the traffic zooming around you? I know this is kinda out of the blue, but thanks for hanging out the other weekend.
Blame it on me being a writer or a Gemini — I like talking out what I’m thinking.
And I know it's weird to receive this now, but I think you should know that for other girls you see. XTucked into a coffee shop in Bushwick, I felt shaky, slimy, and afraid that I had hurt his feelings.
But it felt refreshing to tell a guy what I really thought about our date, instead of just talking sh*t about him with my friends at brunch.
According to my dating app bio, my greatest strength is eating burritos.
If you asked guys I've dated about my best qualities, I hope they'd say that I'm kind, fun, reliable, definitely a little weird.This seems to be a constant theme for me, and perhaps I should be concerned about the patterns I fall into.